This past weekend at a baby shower for a good friend of mine, I was able to see a lot of girlfriends that I hadn't seen since or before Liam passed, and it reminded me of the meaning of friendship. I have not always been the friend I've wanted to be because I'm hot headed, I'm outspoken, I think I'm right nearly all of the time, I hate the phone, and I am admittedly a bit of a recluse (hee hee), but sitting there with the girls, trading birth stories, and reminiscing about bachelorette parties, I realized how incredibly lucky I am to have such wonderful people in my life, and it doesn't stop with just the girls in that room. I have the most amazing friends a girl could ever want! So here's to you, girls. From California to Wisconsin and EVERYwhere in between, I love you, I'm thankful for you and I cherish you.
Here's to friends. The ones who are there for you no matter what. Who understand if you do something rotten, and forgive you even if they don't understand. Here's to friends who you can disagree with and fight with, but in the end make up because what would you do without each other anyway. Here's to the ones that turned out to be better friends than you even knew until you needed them most. To the friend that will drive 40 miles to Cracker Barrel because you're on your period and NEED to eat some hash brown casserole, but don't want to go alone:-) Here's to the friends who will tell you if you don't look good to save you from yourself, and the ones who will say you look amazing if you need a confidence boost. The ones who will stick up for you when you can't do it yourself. The ones you can count on NOT to break the rules in Vegas. Here's to the ones you just met, the ones you are just getting to know better, and the ones you've known FOREVER. The ones that don't compete with you, and that you don't compare yourself to, and the ones that make you want to be better, aim higher, and love more. The ones that inspire you and challenge you. Even the one who you swear every time you call her she is in a fast food drive through, but she looks amazing and what the F is her secret!!
Here's to work friends, college friends, high school friends, horseback riding friends, track friends, cross country friends, aesthetician friends, plastic surgery friends, wives of my husband's friends friends, and sister friends. The ones who take care of you when you've had too much to drink and keep the toilet seat from hitting you in the head and make you go home with them, and the ones whom you push in a wheelchair through the basement of a casino. The ones who treat you to a ridiculously lavish massage because they think you deserve it. Here's to the friends who call your now husband before you were even dating and leave a dozen messages about how stupid he is if he doesn't call you . . . . all without your knowledge or consent, it was out of love right?
And here's to the kindred spirits, the one whom you met and instantly loved and knew that you were cut from the same cloth, and that no matter what you would be best friends forever because your souls had already been best friends before you were born. You could tell them anything, and they are thinking the same thing, its crazy good! The one that you can really keep a secret for, and that you can trust with your own secret.
We've laughed together, we've cried together. We've fought, conspired, loved, baked, cooked, learned, worked and lived together. We've traded recipes, clothes, make-up, books, and tips. We've carpooled, lunched, thrown dinner parties, studied, road tripped, vacationed, and camped together.
Most of all we've just been together. No one ever said they had too many great friends. I value each and every one of you. If we're not that close yet, I hope we get closer, and if we are close, I hope we always stay that way. If we've drifted apart I hope we close the gap. Never stop reaching out, never stop giving second chances and you won't ever regret anything.
"And in the end the love you take is equal to the love you make" The Beatles
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That was a great post. I think that all those people out there that think they need to compete, lie and be grumpy gils aren't good friends and will eventually grow up and realize that the purpose of friends is to be yourself.
ReplyDeleteI am so greatful to have real true friends in my life and I'm glad you are one of them.
BTW...I was looking at that picture of us in Vegas and I go "I don't remember that bar" then I realized that was the preparty in Phoenix at the Airport before we left...man that was a fun trip. Thanks for keeping me out of trouble and for touring the hotel "VIP" entrance. I'm sorry I made you miss Kat's spanx show, hopefully the limo ride made up for it.
Awww Martina. You have the sweetest words in this post. You make me want to be a better friend, wife, and mom. It's nice to hear people talk from their heart.
ReplyDeleteThx :) Miss you much.
Magen
You are such a good writer- I always want to know what you'll say next! I especially like the friend who "takes care of you when you've had too much to drink and keeps the toilet seat from hitting you in the head!" FOR SURE!
ReplyDeleteI was telling Michael on our way home from Tucson, that I really enjoy time & talking with you! I wish we would've hung out more before babies, since not it's more challenging, but I'm really looking forward to you guys moving closer to us!